WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOVE AND OBSESSION?
IN LOVE OR OBSESSED?
Love? Obsession? A lot of us are still confused about what this really is, and every once in a while we ask ourselves “Do I really love this person?”, “Am I just obsessed?”, “What is love?”, “What is obsession?”. If you are still in this phase or need more clarity, let’s go on a journey of discovery.
So, What is Love?
Love is a set of emotions and behaviors characterized by intimacy, passion, trust, and commitment. It is an intense feeling of affection.
What is Obsession?
Obsession is a persistent preoccupation with an often unreasonable idea or feeling. Obsession can paralyze us because it makes us lose touch with ourselves, our feelings, and our ability to reason or solve problems.
We can say love is a positive feeling, while obsession is a negative one (most times). Obsession could also be a mental disorder and the condition is called OBSESSIVE LOVE DISORDER (OCD).
OCD is a condition in which a person feels an overwhelming obsessive desire to possess and protect another person, sometimes with an inability to accept failure or rejection. Symptoms include; inability to tolerate any time spent without that person, and spending inordinate amounts of time seeking out, making, or looking at that person’s picture.
Obsessive lovers may feel entirely unable to refrain from extreme behaviors, such as acts of violence towards themselves or others. It could have its root in childhood trauma. Like we have people who were probably maltreated or didn’t receive any form of love as children always tend to be obsessive.
That is, they tend to want something they can call theirs so bad that the moment someone shows them love they find it extremely hard to let them go. This is considered one of the major causes of OCD.
For it to be cured, it requires Psychotherapy. Kindly visit @rubb_ingmindswithcoachAliyyah on Instagram, for more info on Psychotherapy. We promise you listen.
Having discussed all of these, What then are the differences between love and obsession?;
1. Love is a positive emotion but we can’t always say the same about obsession.
2. Love has no limits and there is complete freedom. While obsession has its own limitations and both parties have no freedom.
3. Love is always pure and it is an understanding between two individuals but Obsession comes with a bag load of jealousy.
4. In love, the other person’s needs are as important as yours but in obsession, all you care about is yourself no matter how hard to tell yourself that’s not the case.
Finally, the thin line between love and obsession will always exist even though they have similarities. Obsession is very toxic and will wreak havoc for both parties. so ask yourself now, Are you in love or you are obsessed?, Ask yourself if you love the other person enough to sacrifice some of your needs for them?.
When you have an argument, do you still consider how your words and actions affect them, or do you just want to hurt them back so bad?. Ask yourself the right questions and evaluate your answers honestly. If you still need help, you can always seek help by reaching out to us on @rubb_ingmindswithcoachAliyyah on Instagram today.